My kids and I are moving to Miami soon. I’m originally from New Jersey and my kids have spent most of their time in the north east and the east coast. Our beauty standards here are very relaxed, probably partially due to weather. With my daughter’s generation in particular, it’s very common for the girls to wear baggy clothes, band tshirts, jerseys, and even wear second hand clothing that they modify to create something else. The style is very artsy. My daughter wears her hair in locs and enjoys the way it looks without a fresh retwist. She likes the boho/artsy look.
In preparation to move, my daughter has been watching a lot of videos about things to know before moving to Miami, and many of the videos mention the different beauty standards. The videos mention that the beauty standards are a lot higher in Miami. I can tell it’s making her nervous. She feels like she will be an outcast or teased if she isn’t “prissy and pretty” all the time. I reassure her that she won’t get teased, but I’m honestly not sure?
Hell, I’m honestly a bit worried myself. I’m kind of a plain Jane. I just wear my hair in a bun, don’t wear makeup, wear presentable business casual clothes and go. But I’m kind of worried about having the change the way I present myself in order to date.
And honestly, my daughter is also worried about being in the minority. She’s used to being in predominantly black schools/areas where the beauty standards look like her. Seeing that the Miami area is mostly Hispanic, she feels like she won’t be seen as beautiful.
Any insight? Extra points if you can share insight from a black perspective, if you have teens/preteens who are still developing their self image, or from someone who moved from a more relaxed state to Miami.
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